The biggest obstacle for a woman to have an orgasm is psychological. First, she must feel sexy to get turned on. For a woman, reaching orgasm is a gradual process. There is no single best sexual technique that can guarantee a woman’s satisfaction. It requires a slow build of mood and touch that eventually sends her over the edge. A better understanding of the female orgasm will go a long way in guiding you on how to pleasure her in bed.

(1) Give pleasure, don’t pressure

Sometimes it’s not your fault or hers. It may be due to some temporary psychological factors. Many women feel so pressured by not being able to orgasm after a fairly long foreplay session that they end up faking orgasm. The best way to handle this situation is to tell her it’s okay and let her know that you just want to pleasure her regardless of whether she’s going to have an orgasm. What they can do is explore each other’s bodies and in the process they will probably be able to discover some possible forgotten erotic places.

(2) Put her in the mood

If you want her to be uninhibited in the bedroom, you need to help her by setting the mood. Do anything to make her feel good about herself. The best thing will be to make her feel sexy. Compliment her sincerely on something she works hard on, like her new hairstyle or the new clothes she just bought. Don’t rush into the bedroom. When she’s sitting next to you on the couch watching TV or chatting with you, you can start caressing and kissing her slowly. You can take a steamy, sensual bath with her, taking turns rubbing her back. You can offer to give her a massage after her hard day at work. You start massaging her shoulders, then her neck and when she relaxes you can get naughty with her hands. Treat her to some of her favorite treats, chocolates or her wine. In the bedroom, use dim lighting, play sensual music, fill the room with scented candles or perfume, change the curtains or sheets to her favorite color. You can also set the mood in other places in your home, like the living room, kitchen, or anywhere you can think of.

(3) Don’t keep quiet

Communication is the key to good sex. Some women who are self-conscious about how they look when they are naked tend to have a hard time reaching orgasm. You can make her feel good about herself by complimenting how good she looks, and you can make some noises to show her how you’re enjoying what you’re doing with her. You can also talk dirty to her, which turns on most women. You can tell her what you like to do with her. Your words will be more effective if you can maintain eye contact with her. In addition to the content of the dirty talk, the way you say it is equally important. You can choose a low, deep voice, a high, scratchy tone, or a breathy whisper to convey your sexy messages.

(4) Give your breasts tender loving care

Gently brush the top, bottom, and sides of your breasts, which are actually quite sensitive. Slowly move towards her nipples. The super-sensitive nerves in your nipples are connected to the pleasure nerves in your clitoris and vagina, so pinching or rubbing your nipples will make you wet. To tease her, start by stimulating her nipples with your mouth and her clitoris with your fingers. After she has become aroused, switch to stimulating her nipples with your hands and using your mouth on her clitoris. The different sensations in each of the parts of her body will lead her to an orgasm that she has never experienced before.

(5) Give her a clitoral orgasm

The easiest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris, an area that is solely for her to enjoy sensual pleasure. Before she is well aroused, direct contact with the clitoris can make her uncomfortable. It is best to start with indirect contact. She can add a bit of variety by trying side-by-side or diagonal strokes. Once her breathing becomes heavy, which is a sign that she is ready for more stimulation, you can place your thumb on her clitoris and begin massaging it.

Most women do not reach orgasm through penetration. It is because there are comparatively much fewer nerve endings in the walls of the vagina than at the entrance. So no matter how hard and deep you can go in, you won’t get it out. Instead, try a grinding motion that can allow your pubic bone to come into contact with your clitoris, which will give you the stimulation you want to orgasm. It’s the main reason many women favor the woman-on-top position. This position allows them to control the action for maximum clitoral stimulation by moving their hips forward to allow contact with the head of the clitoris.

(6) Know the telltale signs that she is having an orgasm

When you give her oral sex, don’t immediately dive in and reach for her clitoris. Start by kissing her inner thighs and then move your mouth to either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making first contact. Watch your hips for a clue as to what rhythm you like. If her hips are digging into your face, it means you can speed things up a bit by licking her clit faster. Watch for signs of her nearing climax, such as the subtle deepening of the color of her labia due to increased blood flow. You can also put a hand on her stomach to feel the muscle contractions that occur immediately before her orgasm.

(7) Continuity and consistency

Women love and appreciate your effort when you try new things or ways to please them. However, once you find out what works for her, stick with it until she orgasms. Don’t stop or change your movement halfway to orgasm. You can try those new things in the next round or in future encounters.

(8) Get him to orgasm first

A woman’s orgasm threshold drops after the first. Therefore, it is much easier to climax her through penetration after she has already experienced one of hers. The easiest way to get her to orgasm before you do is to stimulate her clitoris using your fingers, tongue, the tip of your “little brother” and a vibrator. Therefore, first make him orgasm from her before you enter her.