– Do you pay the bill for your relationship?

– Are you giving more of yourself to your partner without receiving anything in return?

– Are you paying for everything but justifying your actions?

– When you talk about events, for example movies, concerts or social functions, do you say “I don’t have the money” instead of saying that we don’t have it?

Something very sinister is happening in the world of relationships and it begins with women buying affection with their money, or self-esteem, and in most cases, with both.

I am noticing an ugly pattern of women who are so frustrated with the “finding a man” process that they are making extremely bad self-defeating decisions. This especially happens when they meet a guy who is above their expectations in the category of appearance or status. She will lose self-respect and dignity just by staying with that man. She is aware that this man is not good for her, but she cannot leave.

MY GOD! Don’t let her meet a guy with status and looks; because this is when the most educated and prosperous woman can surprisingly lose her edge, confidence, self-respect and dignity.

Why? Well, it’s about limiting beliefs, fear and, for some of these women, the deep feeling that they don’t deserve a man of that caliber. It is really what they feel for themselves. Now stay with me, because I’m about to take you to a very ugly place.

Here in 2010, there are women who STILL are NOT comfortable with their dark skin color and would accept all kinds of clutter and disrespect from El Debarge’s sibling types. Looking at them closely, you will hear subtle comments about now wanting to have dark-skinned or (bluish-black) boys and girls with long hair. Also, a woman who thinks this way will bring up past relationships when dating a light-skinned guy. I was wondering and wondering, “Why are you describing a man when the question was not on the table?” He would never get an intelligent answer even from educated women; they’d just say “Phil, I’m just saying” But why? That is what I am thinking.

Here are some women in these categories: overweight and average or below average looking who are doing the exact same thing with men who are ABOVE their expectations.

All of these women are buying cars, clothes, all kinds of nice gifts for these men and they get NOTHING in return other than the ability to parade this man among their friends, family and co-workers and yes, church members. A lot of them stay home waiting for the phone, running out of credit cards, spending all their money chasing this guy, cheating on him, and still looking for ways to impress him by doing whatever they want. They act like they’re scared, or too in love to kick that NOT good, lying, deceptive, or disrespectful gigolo around the curve.

I discovered that most of these women have a great fear that some other woman will catch that man, after she let him go and he would go straight away and fly well !!! This is incredible, but very true! It will be difficult to find someone who can convince them to leave that man.

I also have to say that a more attractive woman with average looking guys who approach them is not without problems either. You see, they’re looking for the cream of the crop brothers, the high-caliber type; one with looks, intelligence and status. If you find someone who is cute and in a professional position, even if they are not making money yet, you jump on them. She will see the potential and will do the exact same thing; Try to buy your affection. Many focus on the status rather than the actual relationship and treatment.

These tragedies happen every day and many of you who read this article know someone I am describing.

Ladies, loving yourself is a verb! It requires your actions, not just words.

A high caliber boy is one who is aligned with your values ​​and vision of life. Not how good or cute it is and its status. He may be good and cute, but NO MAN IS WORTH THE LOSS OF HIS PERIOD OF RESPECT AND DIGNITY! Never be afraid to leave a man who mistreats you.

Sharing and caring for each other is not buying affection. But when you are expected to carry the burden without contribution, you are just a woman paying to support a man.

Don’t buy this silly line from a man: “You will never find another man like me”, “Men don’t grow on trees for women like you”, “Who will want a woman with so many children”, “You better be happy with what you have … “

Guess what, all these comments are only true, YES, you believe such a thing.