Premarital sex is universally known as two people having sex before marriage. In the past, premarital sex was considered forbidden and doing so would lead to heavy retribution. Now, as society evolves, values ​​and mindsets develop and our degenerate society is slowly embracing premarital sex as a commonplace in relationships. This had given rise to ambivalent responses from both society and religions. The important question is whether our society has accepted premarital sex. Are the youth of our society aware of the effects of premarital sex?

Waiting until you’re married to engage in sexual activity isn’t just an outdated ideal. It can be advantageous both for the couple and for the relationship itself. Similarly, engaging in sexual activity before marriage can also affect a relationship in many ways. Premarital sex can affect the way a couple relates, change the dynamics of the relationship, and even have physical effects, a child could enter the equation, and of course, most importantly, the salvation of the souls involved.

‘Food is for the stomach and the stomach is for food, and God will put an end to both together. But the body is not for the desires of the flesh, but for the Lord; and the Lord by the body: And God, who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead, will do the same for us by his power. Do you not see that his bodies are part of the body of Christ? How, then, can I take what is part of the body of Christ and make it part of the body of a free woman? Such a thing may not be. Or do you not see that he who joins himself to a loose woman is one body with her? Because God has said, the two will be one flesh. But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit. Turn away from the desires of the flesh. Every sin that man commits is outside the body; but he who goes after the desires of the flesh does harm to his body. Or do you not know that your body is the house of the Holy Spirit that is in you and that it has been given to you by God? And you are not masters of yourselves; for a payment has been made for you: may God be glorified in your body.’

1 Corinthians 6:13-20

‘But fornication and all kinds of impurity, or covetousness, are not even mentioned among you, because they are not to be named among God’s people.’

Ephesians 5:3

EFFECTS

1. If you sow premarital sex, you will reap extramarital sex. Surveys have revealed that people who have had premarital sex are more promiscuous or more susceptible to extramarital sex and affairs while married. Genesis 8:22.

2. It opens the door for demonic spirits to wreak havoc on the relationship. Remember, sex is as spiritual as it is physical. 1 Corinthians 6:16.

3. It will prevent God’s provision of favor from reaching you. As Christians, we know that God frowns. The Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:18 says; ‘Flee from fornication. All sin that man commits is without his body, but he who commits fornication sins against his own body. What? Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God and are not your own?’

4. Your conscience will be wounded and you will be tormented by the thought of such acts of disobedience. STDs are often passed on when couples have had multiple sexual partners. Although premarital sex does not necessarily mean that the couple has had multiple sexual partners, the chances are greater than if a couple promises to abstain until marriage.

5. It prevents you from seeing your partner’s flaws and negative attitudes. You may be forced to manage the relationship which can lead to a bad marriage due to the temporary pleasure of sex.

6. You lose the respect of your partner and your focus becomes blurred. Sex creates a bond between sexual partners that can be easily violated if the commitment is not strong enough to sustain it. Marriage creates a lifelong commitment and can support the bond that a sexual relationship creates. It is very difficult for couples who engage in premarital sex to ensure that their sexual relationship creates a lasting bond.

7. It erodes the trust they have for each other. As a result, suspicion arises and there is room for severe jealousy even when nothing is happening.

8. Premarital sex replaces intimacy. This could end in heartbreak if you lose interest. A married couple might also be more likely to experience problems if one or both partners had been sexually active before marriage. Couples with multiple past sexual partners may find themselves comparing their marital sex life to their premarital sex life, often leading to dissatisfaction.

9. Couples who cohabit or have premarital sex before marriage are at higher risk of divorce and report a lower level of dedication to the relationship, which increases the risk of a single-parent household if a child is involved. You open yourself up to shame and regret if it leads to pregnancy. If you try to cover up by committing an abortion, you become guilty of murder, that is, if you survive.

10. It will also lead to a bad reputation. Usually if teens have premarital sex, this secrecy is confined between the couple. Many times, this act is difficult to keep secret, since the man tends to show off among his friends, which generates rumours. The girl’s reputation is at stake, as her own peers will judge and criticize her.

Based on the information given above, it can be deduced that premarital sex adds nothing to your courtship. It only introduces disaffection. If you have already had premarital sex, you must make a commitment to God, his boyfriend or girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure from now until marriage.

Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage. God will provide the strength and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation. Philippians 4:13

1 Corinthians 10:13 declares, “No temptation has you in his power, but what is common to human nature; and God is faithful and will not allow you to be tempted beyond your strength. But when the temptation comes, He also prepare the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” It is possible to fight sexual temptation and win the battle.

Also, it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin of premarital sex. When a person puts his faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, desiring to turn from the old life of sin, all sins are forgiven. Jesus died to pay the penalty for all our sins, including premarital sex. Once they are forgiven, all are forgiven.

Colossians 1:13-14 says, “Who limping delivered us from the power of darkness, and limping brought us into the kingdom of his beloved Son. In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins:” What we are to do is to confess our sins. 1 John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

pray this prayer

“Lord Jesus, I am a sinner, save me from sins, I promised not to commit the sin of premarital sex anymore. Give me the grace Lord to live for you and only for you, I pray, oh Lord in Jesus name. Amen.

Congratulations God sees your commitment and will give you the grace to live above all temptation. In the mighty name of Jesus.