Have you ever had a boss, friend, or co-worker that you would do anything for? Or maybe you’ve been lucky enough to be the boss or coach who had people reporting to you who would do just about anything you asked.

In either case, there is a high probability that the reason people are willing to go to the wall for you, or you are willing to go to the wall for them, is a direct result of how they were treated. Usually, there are three things people do that make you go the extra mile for them:

1) They make you feel cared for.

2) They make you feel appreciated.

3) They make you feel respected.

In the absence of these three things, you will never get as much out of any relationship you have with people as you could.

As simple as these three are to do (or list here), I’ve found their practice to be seriously lacking in almost every area of ​​life I’ve been privy to. Imagine how much all areas of your life would improve if everyone practiced these three simple things.

Some might say “But not everyone is serving respect, appreciation and caring”. I tend to agree, but my response would be that you have to give those things up to get them. Perhaps part of the problem is that many people hold onto these things until they get them first.

I have found that if I do my best to believe people (in some cases when there is no apparent reason to do so), most of the time, eventually, they will agree with me. I have worked with many people who I was advised not to get involved with, who have become some of my most hardworking, personable, and productive clients.

That being said, doing these three things is not a guarantee of success. It’s a two-way street, and I’ve had clients take my faith in them and hard work for granted, causing those relationships to end prematurely.

Although it doesn’t guarantee success, practicing these three things dramatically increases your chances of success. Most people have been in relationships where they felt unappreciated, therefore lost their enthusiasm and ended up just going through the motions. No one, to my knowledge, has ever performed at their peak while just going through the motions.

Therefore, I highly recommend that you practice these three things in all of your relationships if you want to give them the best chance of being as successful as possible.

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