Ok, so you managed to really piss off your girlfriend once again, and this time she really had it with you.

Your chances of getting her back depend on the nature of your mistakes and how you’ll apologize for them.

Here are some tips on what to do to get out of the kennel:

Avoid clichés, you can do better than flowers

Now is definitely the time to go into emergency boyfriend mode. If you don’t fix this situation quickly, you won’t be able to be a boyfriend anymore.

Resist the urge to take the easy route here by sending flowers and a card; that has been done ad nauseam and you need to think big and think outside the box.

rethink the relationship

Just because you want to be with your girl doesn’t mean you have the ability to be her boyfriend. She may demand a level of attention and sensitivity from her partner that you can’t provide.

Also, there is a big difference between making a universally bad mistake and simply being a flawed human being. If she doesn’t accept your simple human flaws and is trying to change who you are, beware. You probably don’t want to restore this relationship.

Have a very important and much needed conversation with your girl

Find out from her directly what it is that annoys her the most in the relationship. Was it a mistake you keep repeating? An aspect of your personality that is particularly cruel and difficult for her to deal with?

Listen to her carefully and know what you need to fix if you are going to be able to keep this girlfriend. Even if the two of you break up and the relationship ends for good, becoming a better person will only benefit you.

Address your problems and failures (professionally)

In the past, when your girlfriend got mad at you, you could temporarily calm her anger by being silly and cute; you would make her laugh, you would tickle her to make her laugh even harder. Within a few days, all would be forgiven.

This time, it’s not so easy. If you have a womanizing problem, a drinking problem, or something similar that is serious enough to seriously threaten your relationship, then you need to address your demons with a therapist and start working through them.

Therapy is just one option, and it’s worth mentioning because it can be helpful with anything and everything.

The point is that you are trying to fix the parts of yourself that are messed up and that are keeping you from having a relationship. The efforts you make will not go unnoticed by your lady, and that shows that you are dedicated and also shows how you have changed.

Be consistent in your self-improvement efforts and keep improving

Everything related to self-help is very difficult. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that you will be a better version of yourself in a few days or weeks; the truth is that it will take much longer.

Because it’s such hard work to go through something like therapy or a twelve-step program, the last thing you want to do after all that sacrifice is give up.

Take her on a romantic trip for two

Sound a bit cheesy? That’s because it is. But trust me, girls like it cheesy. Works.

You don’t have to throw away an insane amount of cash; Secluded tropical beaches and five-star resorts are not necessary.

In fact, it’s ideal if you’re driving together on a road trip, because it leaves more communication opportunities than flying in a plane.

A weekend getaway is all you need. This is your chance to take things to another level; get really romantic and further cement your boyfriend/girlfriend bond.

Remember how good it is to be on their good side and stay there

You’ve learned (hopefully) not to take your girlfriend for granted anymore. It is by no means guaranteed that she will always be there in your life; as she showed her, she will leave if she feels she has to.

Now you have the tools to preserve it, so use them.