Masturbation is one of the best ways to understand how your body responds to sex to prepare you to last longer in bed. However, not all masturbation will help you, and can actually set you up for orgasm faster if done incorrectly.

Here are 9 tips to make sure you don’t sabotage yourself:

1. Never masturbate without lubricant

The fact is, your hand doesn’t feel the same (or as good) as a vagina. That means if you masturbate with a dry hand, you are training your body to not require a lot of stimulation to reach orgasm. That’s obviously a bad thing …

The key is to give yourself the same or even more stimulation when you masturbate, so that when it’s time for the “main event” you are mentally and physically prepared. You can simply use lubrication, or if you want to get as close to life as possible, then you can invest in a pocket vagina.

There really is no better tool than a pocket vagina if you really want to learn how to last longer in bed.

2. Never rush into masturbation

If your goal is to last a long time in bed, then you can’t rush masturbation. That will only train your ejaculatory reflex to orgasm faster and faster over time.

Try to set aside at least 20 minutes each time you feel the urge to masturbate. Then if you feel like you are about to orgasm before 20 minutes, you should take a break, relax, and focus on your breathing until your arousal levels return to normal.

3. Masturbate always relaxed and without distractions

For me, I think it is better to masturbate at night before going to bed. That way I know I have plenty of time, I’m relaxed, and there are absolutely no distractions.

If you are going to be in a hurry, it is always best NOT to masturbate and wait until you have enough time.

4. Don’t get too excited before masturbating

This is a classic example of what not to do. Many men watch a porn until they are really excited and then masturbate, which inevitably causes them to have an orgasm in a few seconds.

Instead, you should masturbate all the time so that you can train to stay calm and not get too excited.

5. Don’t visualize too much

Excessive visualization is a bad habit to start with, so if you can maintain an erection without it, I suggest you don’t visualize at all. You want to train your mind to stay calm during sex and if you are constantly concentrating on awakening thoughts during masturbation, then you will have a hard time staying relaxed with a partner.

6. Remember to breathe

Breathing is the best way to stay calm during sex, so you’ll want to practice deep breathing when masturbating. Just focus on taking deep breaths and you’ll be amazed at how relaxed your mind and body will be even as your arousal levels rise.

7. Don’t flex your perineal muscles

Your perineal muscles control your ejaculatory reflex, so if you can keep them relaxed, it will last longer during sex.

While masturbating, try to keep these muscles completely relaxed. As you gain experience, you will want to try the “hold on” technique, which requires you to flex these muscles just before ejaculation. However, if you are just starting out, focus on relaxing rather than the more advanced technique of “holding on.”

8. Push, don’t just shake

Let’s face it, no girl is going to do all the work, so there’s no point in training to sit there while waving your hand.

Better to thrust with real life movements while using lubrication or a pocket vagina to get your mind and body used to the strong stimulation.

9. Always urinate beforehand

Never start masturbating or having sex with a full bladder. This puts pressure on the perineal muscles, prostate, and seminal vesicles, which will activate your ejaculatory reflex faster.

Therefore, it is better to get into the habit of going to the bathroom before masturbating or initiating sex.