10) Too Nice – Yeah, the obvious starts because by definition a nice guy is “nice” and nice guys are not sexually successful with women because, frankly, they are nice guys.
9) Too Honest – A nice guy will let a girl know how much he cares about her and this leads to some problems. The first problem is that this could scare her because she never looked at you that way. Another problem is that this removes any sense of mystery that you can convey with it. If she already knows how you feel about her, then what does she have to fantasize about?
8) He lies too much: This is not a contradiction to the last reason which is another typical trait of a good guy. A good guy will lie to himself and to women about his sexual attraction to her because one of the biggest myths perpetuated is that women don’t want sex. Consequently, he will at first pretend that he just wants friendship and will “appear” different from all the other guys who just want to sleep with her. This propensity to lie leads to the aforementioned honesty that comes out of nowhere and completely scares women. Try to be honest up front. There is no need to hide your sexual feelings towards her at first. You’d be surprised how much more action you’ll get that way.
7) Too Needy: If you get a woman’s number or by some miracle got her into bed, you are not free to call and bother her 24/7. Women want men they have to chase after, not men who are on top of them all the time calling “just to talk.” Come on, man, you need to stop being so needy around women.
Try this: seriously ask a woman which man she would be more attracted to, a man who calls 5 times a day or a man who calls 5 times a month.
6) Too predictable: Women love drama and adventure. They are attracted to men who have an aura of excitement and danger. If you want to keep a woman, you have to put her on an emotional roller coaster. Why do you think they spend so much time and money reading romance novels?
5) Too cautious: This is an extension of the last reason. You have to be bold and show women that you are a real man. Instead of just thinking about approaching the girl you want, make your move and approach her to start a conversation. You may be surprised and separate from most men who are “nice guys.”
4) Too gullible/people-pleasing: Nice guys generally don’t have much street smarts. They can be easily fooled because one of the laws of human nature is “we like people who are like us.” Imagine, for example, that you are in a club and a woman speaks to you smiling and you smile back and she asks you to buy her a drink, what are you going to do? I guess you’ll give him a drink. My second guess is that right after you buy her a drink, she’ll be on the dance floor stumbling with the guy who didn’t buy her a drink. My third guess is that she’s going to run off with the same guy while you stay behind paying for her cocktail.
Women will always respond negatively to men who are gullible and complacent. She needs to know from the start that you can handle yourself, that you’re tough-minded and hard to win. It is not in the nature of a man to please other people.
3) Too Sweet/Sensitive- You got a first date and showed up at her door with candy and roses and do you know what will happen? She will already feel that she has conquered you and the game is over, so after the date do not expect any kind of sexual pleasure. You’ll be lucky if you get a goodbye kiss, but I think it’ll probably be a goodnight kiss right on the cheek. There is no reason to be sweet all the time. A bad boy may bring flowers because he goes against what he normally does and, as mentioned above, women want an unpredictable man. When a bad boy does, it’s usually later in the relationship just to show him that he can be sweet sometimes.
2) Too much smiling: you want to be taken seriously, so you have to appear serious. If you walk up to a girl with a big smile on your face, she’ll probably think you’re a coward and she won’t tell you the time of day. Attracting women is serious business, guys, and you have to put on a game face at all times. This brings out that “mystery” I talked about earlier. Women are experts in body language and love to imagine what is going on inside your head. That is why many women love astrology and psychology. If you’re always smiling like a used car salesman, you’ve taken all the fun out of it and placed yourself firmly in the “low status individual” category, aka “just friends.”
1) Evolution: Unfortunately for the good guys, evolution has burned you out. When we were still living in very dangerous conditions, men had to hunt, fight and protect their families/tribe. The men who proved capable of doing this were valued because the women naturally knew that they and their children would be safe under their watch.
Think about that for a moment. A man is supposed to be a leader, not a follower. He is supposed to be a man of action, not caution and he is supposed to be a protector. Nature has dictated this arrangement.
Good guys are followers, men of caution, and if they can’t protect themselves, how are they supposed to protect their women and children? This is why evolution is the #1 reason nice guy syndrome leads to failure with women.
