A relationship can be exhausting enough on its own, but add the long distance factor to that and it can get downright unbearable at times. If you are a woman looking to end a long distance relationship, no matter what your reasons are, something to avoid is hurting him more than necessary. Here’s how to end it without breaking your heart.
Talk It Out: Talk to him and let him know about the problems you are having with the relationship, rather than just leaving him out of the blue. Tell him your reasons why he deserves to know, and make sure he knows that you are determined and that there is no turning back, so he does not cling to nonexistent hopes. Have a polite conversation, try not to yell at or blame him, and be patient even if he becomes hysterical. In short, let him down calmly.
Be kind: breakups can be paralyzing for some people, leaving them with doubts or complexes that hold them back for the rest of their lives. Remember, you were with him once, you must have had a good time, and so if nothing else, make sure you leave him whole and emotionally stable. Let him know that you are a good guy and that you had a great time with him. Reminisce with him and let him know that one day you will find someone who is more suitable for him.
Be there for him: Once you break up with him, he will need a shoulder to lean on. And since he’s been close to you and used to leaning on you, that shoulder is most likely yours. It can be tough, but be there for him until he gets over the initial shock. Talk about it for as long as you need to and explain your reasons when you want answers. You can’t be there to comfort him physically, so make up for it emotionally.
Give it closure: One thing that keeps most people from moving on after a breakup is a lack of closure. You have to reject any hopes he has of ever getting back together, so that he can let go and move on. But you have to do this with kindness. Unless you’ve been taking it well and want to be friends, enable the no-contact policy once you’re done and comforted. Don’t text or call her just because you need to sometimes, as this can give her unnecessary hope and prevent her from moving on with her life.
