If you are not having the type of success you want, you may be experiencing some self-sabotaging behaviors. And, if you are engaging in these types of behaviors, then it is important to identify what you are doing and turn it around.

Playing the waiting game

If you ever hear yourself say “I’ll do that when xyz” then stop it right now. “When I lose weight, I’ll go hiking.” “When this client’s job is done, I’ll write my novel.” It all makes sense, but it’s a waiting game that will never end. If you don’t take action now, nothing will happen.

You stay with the wrong people

Yes, even as an adult you can pick the wrong friends. If you often find yourself at odds with your friends’ values ​​and goals in life, or apologize for other people’s behavior, you’re just making up excuses to avoid an awkward conclusion. You have surpassed your friends.

Saying, “I never …”

Fill in the blank about what you never say, do or feel. The fact is, if you don’t think you will be successful in your business or lose that extra weight, you probably won’t. You have to visualize the success you want to achieve for this to happen. If all you see is negative, that is all you will get.

I don’t want to do it alone

Ultimately, we are all alone. If you wait for everyone to tune in to you, you may miss out on a great new adventure. Whether it’s starting a business, watching a movie, or trying a new restaurant, you can do it yourself without anyone else doing it with you.

Thinking you’re not “smart” like …

Someone will always be smarter, prettier or something more than you. By saying that you are not something, you will have a hard time getting out of the box that you have gotten yourself into. Forget who you think you are and do what you want to do. You don’t have to be perfect.

You hide your feelings

When someone asks you a question about your feelings, you simply say “I’m fine” And leave it like that, even when it’s not right Did you know that you can get stuck in a certain mindset if you avoid it and don’t talk about it? You have to name it to change it.

My client needs me

They are all replaceable. If you find that you’re working with someone just because you think you need it, even when it’s not working for you, you’re really wasting your time. A client who is not compatible with you will leave you the moment they find someone with whom they are compatible. Don’t do anyone any favors unless you really want to.

Lacks a support system

Support can come in a variety of forms, from human support to electronic support. If you set up a good system to help you stick to your schedule (whether it’s for work or play) and you get help when you need it, you will be far more successful than if you don’t.