Ignoring her and having TONS of fish at stake

Many guys will focus only on one girl and at the same time push her away, why is this? Imagine that you are fishing and you only have a “rod” in the water. Inherently, it will pay too much attention to the line and jump on it the moment it moves. Now imagine that you have ten rods in the water, one is moving but you don’t pay the same level of attention to it because two others are showing interest at the same time. The more fish curious about your bait, the greater the chance you’ll catch one, not just because of a numbers game, but simply because you physically can’t pay too much attention to just one. This is a kind of positive self-sabotage to keep your attention divided. This is one of the strangest things about relationships and it’s exactly why “when it rains, it pours” is such a true adage.

The art of push and pull

Push and pull I’ve heard in the PUA world several times, but I’ve never heard a good explanation of why it works and I’ve never heard it applied to how to text a girl. Let me explain how to move this handy tool so that there is no question about how to text a girl, perfectly. I like to push and pull self-stimulation (you get me, right?) as you “work” on yourself, you’re creating arousal. If you just “pull” or just “push”, there would be no “upright” attraction and certainly no release. In the texting world it might look like this: You: Hey babe, did you get that job yet? (pull) Her: I don’t know, still a little worried You: Well, if you weren’t so unqualified (push) Her: Hey! What is that supposed to mean!? You: She was talking about us (second push) Her: Anyway, you wish you could go out with me! € You: Sigh, you’re right, I’m certainly not in your league (jerk) Her: My God! I know you… so cocky You: Of course you do, and that’s why you feel like me (push) Her: hahaha, no… You: It’s ok honey, I have to go, good luck at work and let me know if you manage to (throw) Her: Thank you! Take care… We just kicked things off and since there was no release, we’ve created interest for the second interaction, very well done. (Let me add something, just read another “texting expert’s” advice on how to text women. To my lack of surprise, it was relatively rude and about 80% pushing. This is the PUA bug most common, they rarely incorporate enough pull and put to risk being labeled as jerks, or only create attraction based on temporary negative tension)

Why you should be a pain in the A** about text

Being difficult is a killer tool for creating text attraction because it forces the other person to play by your rules and not theirs. Many guys when texting a girl will take a more passive role, believing that if she “likes” you she will choose you. It’s not that simple, anyone want something other than a challenge? This comes down to perceived value, if there are a lot of obstacles in your particular career, it certainly makes it more fun to win. We want to make sure that she values ​​you as much as possible and therefore she wants to run. Example: Her: Hey, when are you going to ask me out…? You: I was going to ask you the same question Her: Girls don’t ask guys out You: Well, I guess we’re not going out, what a disappointment… Her: Come on, just say it, and don’t worry, I’ll say yes You: No, and I know you will say yes, it shows that you have it bad for me! Her: Jeeze… Why do you have to be so difficult? You: Because you like her Her: Maybe I’ll do it right… I’m free at This text exchange could last an hour or a few days, but the point is you didn’t back down. Women love to push the limits to prove what kind of man you are, this is natural, this is normal. Being difficult and not giving in to a woman’s will is incredibly attractive and powerful when texting a girl.

Safety and comfort then sex

We talked a lot above about pushing her, being difficult, ignoring her, and simply increasing your value by being unconventional. At the same time, it’s incredibly important to communicate that you’re a confident guy, that you’re friendly, that you’re decent, and that sex isn’t your priority. Fortunately, text is a great place to do this, with text you can craft your answer instead of the knee jerk you might throw up in person. Not creating safety and comfort is the number one reason sex closes the doors to your advances. If you don’t know how to text a girl properly and you send her something that is too sexual or mildly aggressive, you will trigger her flight response. Do you know why women love gay men? Because they get their masculine fix with zero sexual threats. I’m not asking you to be sissy around women (but it certainly doesn’t hurt) just so you understand that even the smallest physical sexual threat makes women run away. How does this translate to texting girls? Simple, keep sexual talk to a minimum, keep the anger fully wrapped up, and introduce them to the safest guy you can. Now mix that with being a tug of war, and you have a guy that ALL women will be stupidly attracted to. (Note, danger is a form of sexual tension, but this is a tightrope of attraction, one that can take a long time to master.)

Your goal is mastery, not a bunch of rules and techniques.

I teach a lot of rules and techniques for texting girls, but personally I don’t need them anymore. Why? Because I understand the secret of balance in relationships, something that, if understood, will launch you to success, not just with girls who text, but in all relationships. Be sure to continue below to really master texting.