Single men have to chat with all the women they sleep with. For some men, the thrill of the chase and the novelty of a new partner make the hard work worth it. After going to the trouble of persuading a woman to have sex with him, some men don’t want to start the process over with another woman. A man needs a regular sexual outlet and this is most easily achieved by entering into a relationship with a woman.
Men get turned on by women’s bodies and get their greatest satisfaction from ejaculating in the vagina. But they don’t thank a woman for giving them an orgasm. A man often gets his own stimulus from the lunge. In her eyes, a man creates his own orgasm. For the same reasons, women never brag about their lovers’ orgasms. The male orgasm tends to occur reliably, but a man’s implicit or explicit gratitude can make a woman feel loved.
Straight men get confused by references to the clitoris. Your sex drive (having penetrative sex) focuses them on the vagina. Why does a woman have sex with a man if she wants clitoral stimulation? She can do it alone or with another woman. A man assumes that a woman is focused on the same act as him. It overlooks the fact that a woman just needs to be willing to have sex rather than being driven to get it.
Men assume that women enjoy sex unless their behavior indicates otherwise. As long as a woman does nothing to challenge a man’s belief in his supposed sexual pleasure (orgasm during intercourse or other activity with him), he will feel calm. The fact that she never talks about sexual pleasure and never initiates sexual contact does not concern him. This is an emotional belief that does not stand up to scientific questioning.
Women have different sexual roles, including lover, concubine, prostitute, slut, and prostitute. There are no male equivalents because men respond. This is a key difference between male and female sexuality. Women’s behaviors vary according to their willingness to help with the male orgasm.
Women’s claiming behavior with a lover is just another way that women proactively avoid engaging in eroticism that men enjoy. A man never challenges because he has what he wants: the implicit consent of a woman. Men do not appreciate how easily they can be exploited by women telling them what they want to hear. Who exploits whom? It probably depends on how smart you are to get more than you give.
Most people never comment on sexual matters. Those who do (a small minority) are politically motivated and rarely interested in facts and logic. Men insist that women love sex as much as they do. To attract men, women suggest that they always be sexually willing. Most of the silent majority ignore this bravado, but many others feel they have missed something. They have the impression that others have better experiences.
Consent is not a natural concept for many men. They only see his side of sexual attraction. Whenever they are aroused by a woman, they can guarantee their ability to stimulate her through intercourse and thus (in their eyes) provide women with sensational pleasure. Just as a man does not want to miss out on an erection opportunity, he assumes that a woman will not want to miss an erection opportunity. That opportunity is intercourse. He is oblivious to reproductive risks or social problems.
Given the background of antisocial pursuits by others of their sex (rape, sexual harassment, etc.), men equate talking about the female orgasm with a green light. When a woman says she is having an orgasm, a man accepts her account, however unconvincing it may be. Even so, there are complicated conditions that do not apply when men want to have sex. A woman needs to feel loved and respected. You want to have the right to withdraw your consent at any time.
The most basic consent that a husband has from his wife allows him to take the initiative and make all the effort involved in penetrating her and pushing her until he ejaculates. Many wives offer nothing more than to be available. Prostitutes offer sex by default, but for a higher price they can also provide fellatio. If a man is wealthy, he may have a mistress in addition to his own family, who may be more explicitly devoted to a man’s specific sexual needs and fantasies. Some societies or religions allow a man to have more than one wife, increasing his chances of finding a more proactive lover.
Anyone willing to acknowledge the mismatched sexual urges of men and women tends to focus on ideas to increase women’s enthusiasm for intercourse. No one suggests that men try to reduce their sex drive. Men think that their regular arousal is always a positive asset (should a sexual opportunity arise). However, men’s response to images of seemingly kind and partially clothed women leads to significant frustration.
Workplaces must enforce formal dress protocols that are the same for both genders. The men only show the hands, neck and head. Women should be required to do the same even in summer, just as men do. Advertising of all forms should ban images of seemingly seductive, semi-nude women used to promote products from women’s underwear to automobiles.
Instead of having sex, many women simply want to LOOK as if they are having sex. (Bella Ellwood-Clayton 2013)
